Will Your Daughter Be Our Flower Girl? Think Before You Answer

Flower girl at Kellie and Shawn’s Wedding (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Your sweet little daughter has been asked to take part in a wedding, as the Flower Girl, and you feel honored and thrilled enough to say “yes” right away, but in some cases that may not be the best answer.

First you should make sure that your daughter really wants to take on that wedding related role.   We tend to think that most girls would love to be in a wedding.  The fancy dress, the important role and attention would make most girls squeal with delight.  However, some girls are more introverted and shy and taking part in such a big event could be a bit frightening.

Before you commit and tell the bride-to-be that your daughter would be delighted, you should make sure that your daughter knows exactly what she’ll be expected to do.  If you don’t know, be sure to meet with the couple and find out what they want her to do.  These days weddings may not be as traditional as you picture, so it’s good to find out.

Depending on the age of the child – and some Flower Girls can barely walk! – parents have the best intuition and will decide if that role will work based on the child’s personality.

Even then, on the big day with so many unfamiliar faces around, what once sounded like fun can become an intimidating ordeal even for the seasoned attention grabber.  Having a backup plan may help.  Be sure there is someone willing to walk the child down the aisle in case she gets cold feet and refuses to go alone.

Be realistic because no one wants her to back out at the last minute.  And don’t feel badly if she says no.  If she will enjoy the wedding more as one of the guests, then so be it.

 

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